Adultery: Voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a person who is not his or her spouse: Having a relationship with someone who is not your spouse.
Most people think that adultery is having sex with another people who is not your spouse. In my experience that is not always the case. There is another one that most people don’t talk about for they don’t feel it would be considered cheating and that is emotional cheating.
Emotional cheating is disconnecting to you spouse and connecting to someone else to give you what you need emotional that you feel you would or could not be getting from you spouse. It felt like everything changed over night but looking back at things it really did not. For I am not sure if the we were ever really emotionally connect to each other in the way lovers need to be.
As I look back into the relationship I always felt like the other women with him. It seemed like he was able to connect with other women in the neighborhood easier than with me. There was many times I was envy of these women for I wanted the attention from him that they were getting. I kept on telling myself that it was not a big deal for he was going home with me.
I guess I always new he had the grass is greener on the other side. Not wanting to do the work to have the grass green on his side. Needed the easy way out of everything.
I know I contribute to this by not feeling secure within myself to know what I deserve and will except. So when he finally gave his heart away to someone else while we where still married it really did not surprise me at all. I think I knew inside that it was just going to be a matter of time before he left.
I know now looking back this all comes from my childhood in the fact that when your parents will not attach to you emotionally why would you think anyone else would during your life time.
Sexual adultery is one that I have not experience in this life time. From what I know and have seen from others that have experience it some think grass is greener on the other side and others are very self centered. For they don’t think they are going to get caught our they have lack of respect for themselves and others.
- Know you are worth loving. You do this by loving yourself first.
- Keep a journal and write down and emotions and feels that come up. Make sure you honor them.
- Treat yourself with kindness.
- Connect with yourself.