the action or fact of abandoning or being abandoned. Being left by a person you love with no reason why.
Abandonment is a hard one to overcome. For this one of the first lessons we learn in life is trust for our parents. If you have ever had kids you know that they love to do things over and over again to see if they are going to get the same reaction from you. One game they like to play is dropping things off the table or high chair.
This teachers the infant trust and if their parent will be there for them through even the little things. If the parent does not play pick up game with the infant the infant will soon learn that they will not be able to trust and start to feel abandon by the parents.
There are many times during a child’s life when the parent and other adults in their life can either erase what was done early or increase the lack of trust that is already there. Children love their parents and need to trust them. If the parent is unable to spend any time with the child that will create abandonment issues.
As a child gets older abandonment issues will start to show up in many ways. Not being able to keep friends for a long time. For they are always waiting for the bottom to fall out for it always did with their parents.
I remember that their was several times when I needed to talk to my parents for some reason. I was a very emotional child and for that my parents did not have the time or energy to teach me what I needed for me to learn to control my emotions.
I learned early on that the only one I could trust was me. This really did not serve me well at the time. Fore I was young and did not know how this world worked. I had to make my way through this life time with trial and error. This did not always work well for me. I have made many a mistakes along the way.
The biggest way I was able to trust and release my abandonment issue that I got as a child. I had to learn to love myself. Take care of myself and spend time with my self. I had to become my best friend. While doing this I was able to open up my heart chakra and really learn who I am as a person.
Ways to start to become yourselves best friend.
- Take yourself out to eat.
- What is that one activity you enjoyed doing outside as a child. Do that, this will help bring back the inner child.
- Spend time with people who feed you.
- Spend time alone if that is what you need to recharge.
- Most of all treat yourself that way you want everyone else to treat you.